Sometimes I think it’s a wonder people find love at all. I mean, think about it. Sure, there are six billion people on this planet. But half of them are the wrong gender. Throw in age, appearance, and personality requirements and you’re left with maybe a handful. Then you’re expected to find one who likes you back AND is geographically-feasible?
Or perhaps you’re one of those people who likes to look at it from the macro side. Rather than starting from the “There is ONE in this six billion for me” perspective, consider the “There are SIX BILLION out there and I only need one” aspect. If you’re as particular, anal-retentive, and choosy as I am,* you’ll want to try all six billion before you figure which is best.
Advances in health and science notwithstanding, it ain’t gonna happen. Not enough Applebee’s and not enough Friday nights. As this excellent pre-Valentine’s Day article states, “There are 28 million times more possible romantic matches among people in this world than there are stars in the Milky Way. If God spent a minute evaluating each match before assigning people their spouses, the procedure would take 21.4 trillion years to complete. By then, the chocolates would be stale.”
The gist of the article is that increasing the numbers doesn’t better your odds when it comes to love. Aim for six and not six billion, in other words. Choosing fewer often means choosing better. Plus, it’s cheaper. Win-win.
You may not find your soulmate.** But you might find someone who’s up for a little Jenga.
* Not possible, but let’s pretend.
** You also may not HAVE a soulmate, but that’s another blog post entirely.